I know this post is a little off the topic of guns and gear but I have learned a lot over the past few months while planning this wedding and thought I’d share what I learned.
I got married just a few days ago on August 8, 2015. We were engaged for almost two full years so we had a long time to plan stuff out. There is a ton of good information out there for the woman’s side of it all, but not as much useful stuff for the guy. So here we go.
1. If you’re renting suits or tuxes, don’t go through Men’s Warehouse. Well, okay maybe that’s a bit strong. But let me quickly explain. I went to Men’s Warehouse because that’s just where people went. I didn’t even know there was any competitors out there. I know that place runs location to location so the service varies a lot but let me just say that I had a terrible experience. They’re associates were either old men who tried to sell me “old” style tuxes. We’re talking gigantic shirts, non-fitted pants, just terrible. Or they were ladies who, while personally they were nice, they didn’t know the product whatsoever. Whenever I would ask for advice on what to go with or what goes together, they’d say it’s just whatever you want. They’d give me no advice and they clearly didn’t know their product and service. Finally, their internal system was a joke. They couldn’t look us up digitally. Most times, they’d have to sort through a stack of papers to find our group. They forgot to order my best man’s tux until the day before. When we came in for a final fitting, they apologized (kind of), and said they’d have it overnighted. So when the wedding day comes around, we go in to pick it up and they try to charge us $35 for the overnight shipping fee… Like, really? We told them there is no way in hell we were paying that and after 30 minutes of back and forth they gave in. Next, the tux pants didn’t fit and we had to go somewhere else to get it tailored. Ridiculous.
Moral of the story, look elsewhere for your tux rentals. I suggest www.theblacktux.com. And no, they didn’t endorse me to say that. They’ve got killer reviews, decent prices, great customer service, and awesome modern tuxes. They’re based in LA but they work all online. The only reason I didn’t go with them is because I had a 6’6″ 375lb groomsman that they’re suits couldn’t fit.
2. Think closely about how much time you’ll have at your venue before the ceremony begins. We had an hour and half and thought that was plenty. It wasn’t even close. It was a mad house.
3. Think even more closely about the stuff you’re buying and be honest if you’ll have time to set it up and use it. Tricia bought SO much stuff that she didn’t even get the chance to use that day because we were so rushed and so many things were going on.
4. Think about the decorations you buy and try to find stuff that you can utilize in the future. I would say 90% of the decorations we bought are going in the trash because we’ll never use them again. The stuff we will use again though is stuff we’re really excited about. It would have been great to have more stuff to use in the future since we were spending the money anyway.
5. All of the decorations, the cake, the flowers, etc are for your guests. If your wedding is anything like ours… You won’t have time to enjoy any of it.
6. Make time for your guests, especially the old friends. With so much going on, it’s hard to find time to really show your guests that you appreciate them coming out. I wish I had done a better job at this. Some people traveled a huge distance to be there, some people had to skip work, and some people just gave up a Saturday night, but the fact that they did means a lot so make sure to let them know that.
7. Have your best man run defense for you. I got a lot of things like “What should I do with the extra Sprite?” on my wedding day. If it’s a 7 or lower on the importance scale, have the best man deal with it or find someone who can. You’ve planned everything out for the past year with your fiance down the last detail. On the day of, just enjoy her, the atmosphere, and the guests.
8. Laugh at the little things. So many things will go wrong. Like, so many. Everyone tells you that, you’ve seen it on TV a million times, but it’s the truth. And when everything goes wrong, it’s almost comical because of that. You have to be able to laugh and just roll with the punches. While we’re at that, your fiance will almost certainly call you in tears at least once that day. Stay calm, make her laugh, and remind her why you’re getting married. It’s not because of the flowers. It’s not even because the family came out. It’s because you two are in love and can’t live without each other.
Don’t lose sight of that last one and nothing will be able to stop you.
Tricia and I had an amazing wedding. We honestly couldn’t be happier. Yes, everything went wrong but no one on the guest list knew that. They had a great time too. We were in awesome spirits all day and that radiated through the whole venue. I hope this list helps some of you guys out. Enjoy it while you can and it’ll be over before you know it.
Thanks for reading. I’ll be on the honeymoon in Cancun until next week but after that… We’re diving into some serious gun reviews so stay tuned.